The things that we think want aren't always what we want. This doesn't aim to only toward dealings with the opposite sex either. It can be used for example in talking about the want of knowledge, food, a nice car, or a change in "luck". It is how we differentiate what is special, and what is considered a fleeting moment that spans a few beats of our hearts. There are a few ways to find these differences out. Most people move through life wanting things, and the universe/god/chaos theory/positive-negative energies/the all will, at times, grant it to them. Only to find out that after they get what it is they had sought after/dreamt about/wished for/lusted after/craved for/lost sleep over/ wasn't all their own minds had built it up to be. This is a shortcoming of the mind, and not of what was wanted. Others however, play the fringe a little longer. They may feel the pangs of lust, wants, and desires, but abstain from totally giving in to them. This helps them to get a clear view, and asses their entire situation. Playing the fringe can help when because it allows a person to take in tiny pieces, satisfying small portions of the "appetite" instead of filling one's self too quickly. Satisfaction is most likely to be found this way. This is not to say that satisfaction cannot be found in the former, but only that it is more difficult to attain in that sense.
